Did you see the movie Joy?
What a cast, what a story, what life lessons!
I found five.
1). Our dreams are put there for our good and God’s glory.
Do you remember dreaming about your future self as a child? That dream you dreamed about and then left it in your childhood because you believed, or someone taught you to believe, it was a childish dream?
Do you dare to remember?
Not to cause regret, but to reignite that dream. To bring that dream back into the light. To use that dream, that memory, of what could be, so that you once again can believe that all things are possible.
What was your childhood dream?
2). Low points are often turning points.
The turning point in Joy’s life was a low point; an I can’t take this anymore point.
Which is the same place most of us must reach, including me, before we can turn our lives around. A point when nothing in our life resembles our dream. A place where we have no where to go and then we remember and believe once again in our dream.
At the turning point we give our adult self permission to dream again, use that beautiful God given dream and believe again.
Low points are turning points for our lives. We can either move forward in faith, or run back to the barrens that we prayed to be released from.
What was your turning point? What turned around in your life at this point?
3). Our God given gifts are our best gifts!
Sounds so obvious, but our gifts are rarely obvious to us. We value others’ gifts. What I call gift envy, since we can’t see the value of our own precious gifts.
I always wanted the gift of song! I still do.
For too long in my career I believed my most precious gift was termination – firing people!
Who wants that gift?
I didn’t, so I put it away vowing to never use it again.
After being sick and tired of being stuck, struggling for too long to find my path forward, did I finally take the time to reexamine my gift of termination. This time I did it less critically, with more compassion and curiosity. Only then did I discover why I did this not so pleasant task so well – my gifts!
I call this the “Chopped” approach to career planning. No pun intended, but it works for my termination gift! I’ll show you how.
Take the 4 things that you are gifted at – and repackage what you are currently doing into something more palatable, more pleasing, more rewarding. We can add other ingredients to our taste, just like the Food Network show Chopped.
These were the gifts that allowed me to be the best terminator! Please I never liked it, except once, but I was always good at it.
- Gifted in the ability to have difficult conversations. Gift of courage
- Gifted in the ability to tell the truth tactfully and, sometimes not so tactfully. Gift of communication.
- Gifted in the ability to use words so that others can see the truth, know the truth, and eventually believe the truth. Gift of influence.
- Gifted in valuing people for who they are, not what they can do, or did. Gifts of respect and justice.
Do you see how you can repackage, repurpose, rename and definitely reignite your gifts?
Our gifts are not limiting, they are limitless when we see their true value.
Do you know your gifts? Are you using them, abusing them or misusing them? Take another look, be curious and bring them into the light – we need them!
4). Challenges Ignite Our MAGIC POWER
We lament at lost dreams, low points, or covet others gifts. Yet when we put all of these situations, or ingredients together, add a challenge magic does happen! I’ve seen it in my career, those that I have coached, definitely while watching this movie and through the many other true rags to riches success stories that I love to discover.
Challenges are part of our MAGIC formula that creates a POWERful career! I love acronyms so here we go.
Produce Powerful Purposeful
A financial challenge, a societal challenge, a personal conflict/challenge is what so often propels us forward. Look back at your challenges and see how many have moved you forward.
What challenge have you been confronted with that demonstrates your MAGICal POWER?
5). Be Relentless
If the above criteria is there – don’t give up. Someone will try to stop you. For me that someone was usually me. It has taken me years to finally regularly blog. There are days when it is a challenge to get the posts done, to commit to at least one a week. But each time I remember my goal is to impact, help, and encourage just one person, and that will be enough – to keep me moving forward.
I am relentless looking for tips, techniques, and tools to help my students and clients. When I see their transformation, I realize how important hope is to their job search, I can’t give up. They are the fuel that ignites me.
Do you know what your fuel is?
Road blocks will come your way, especially if you are doing something that is purposeful, meaningful, life changing. That is why I love watching the Shark Tank – MORE in action. The contestants are willing to put it all on the line – their lives, their livelihood, their reputation, taking risks because they believe. Who knows what any one of us could achieve if we just say NO to stopping.
Is there a dream, a challenge, that you left behind, that you gave up on that could be exactly the answer to everything that you desire in your life?
Pick it back up, dust it off, and move forward like your life, your legacy, depended on it – because it probably does.
There is one more lesson I saw in this movie. My friends didn’t, but maybe my eyes are focused to find that missing ingredient that has made all the difference in my life.
6). Joy is a Choice.
Everything comes together for Joy. Her dreams come true, she overcomes her challenges, she is using her Magic, yet all her problems were still there staring at her, daring her.
Joy did not find JOY! Her reality was still her reality.
Because joy is not a given, even when our dreams come true. Well it didn’t work that way for me! When I dreamt about being an Executive, flying around the country with a big paycheck and big suitcase! I had money but the one thing I wanted More of was JOY!
So I refocused my eyes to the place that joy springs eternal – Jesus.
Joy is a choice!
Joy is in the good and bad times.
Joy is in the grief and gratitude.
Joy is not a by-product of getting what we always dreamed.
Joy is a by-product of Jesus in our lives.
Pursue Him as relentlessly as you pursue your dream, and joy, sweet joy will be your sweet reward, your eternal reward.
What are you pursuing relentlessly?
Is it bringing you JOY?